I realized that children need more direct questioning. They are developing the art of communication and therefore need to be guided through the process. I started asking questions that required more than one word answers.
Montessori Conversations: What Did You Learn Today? Encouraging DialogueWhat was the best/worst part of your day?
Children often reply that they did nothing all day because they are so busy ‘learning and doing’ that they don’t realize what they are ‘doing’ is important. After all, Montessori said that play is the work of the child. It is only natural then, that they feel that they are working and doing their jobs. Learning that “M” sounds like “mmmm” as in mouse, mat, mug, match, and muffin or learning that the square root of 6 is 36 is just what they’re supposed to be doing. It’s not momentous enough to them to attach daily significance.
and analyze their day. Maybe the best part was being the line leader or getting a lesson on the Racks and Tubes. Maybe the worst part of their day was not having Spanish or spilling their milk at lunch time. Whatever it was surely it was important enough to make an impact. As Montessori parents and teachers, we need to use active listening skills and to respond in a way to encourage more conversation. Here is an example:
Mom: “What was the best part of your day?”
Child: “When I dropped the addition tile box.”
Mom: “When you dropped the tile box? How was that the best part of your day?”
Child: “Well, because Suzie came over and helped me pick up all the tiles and put them back in the box. Afterward, she helped me roll my mat and asked if I wanted to work on some science together. We had a lot of fun and we sat beside each other at lunch.”
Mom: “It must have felt nice working with Suzie. I’m glad to see you are making new friends.”
From the parent’s perspective, dropping the tile box and having to pick up all the pieces did not sound like the best part of any day. However, from the child’s point of view, it was the catalyst that started a series of positive events.
Hint: This is a good thing to do at the dinner table. As you’re eating, go around the table and each family member can tell the best and worst parts of their day. If you ask for the worst parts first, then you can end on a positive note.
What did you learn today?
One afternoon after school, my son and I were walking to the parking lot with our Executive Director. He asked my son, “Can you tell me three things you learned today?” I was struck by the seemingly simplistic question and marveled at the complexity of the mental process required to answer it. The metacognition to recall three things learned out of all the many other things happening during the day was difficult. It required thinking back to lessons and extracting exact information.
With younger children, you may decide to ask them to tell you one thing. Or ask more specifically, what did you learn in zoology today? Not only does this focus your child on what they learned in school, but it shows them that you are taking an active role in their learning and education.
Ticket out the door
Before the students leave each day, they must complete a “3-2-1” journal.
- 3 things you learned today
- 2 things you still have questions about
- 1 thing you will do with the knowledge/information you received today
© North American Montessori Center - originally posted in its entirety at Montessori Teacher Training on Thursday, October 30, 2008.